The Wedding Invitation Guide – Pt. 1

Posted on December 16, 2014 at 9:00 am

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The season may be slow, but wedding planning is most definitely in full swing. We thought that it might be helpful to start a few series sharing some advice on topics we are most frequently asked about. Today begins the series on The Wedding Invitation. We will break it down into different topics that go more in depth related to questions we’ve received. So hang on and lets figure out….


{Now take into mind that next week we will discuss who/when you should have an A & B list, and how to use them. This is just the bare bones, MUST HAVES on your invitation list.}

Aside from the common sense guests like immediate family, grandparents, and your bridal party attendants you and your fiance have sole control over your guest list. Don’t feel pressured by mom or Aunt Sally to add to your list (unless mom is paying for the whole thing, and then it might be nice to throw her a bone but we will discuss that on the next invitation installment.) No guest list will be the same, you can have 10 guests or 1,000 guests, it can be all family or all friends. The beauty of this wedding is that it is all about you and your fiancé.

-Invite the a-list players in your life. Do you have dinner together frequently? Do you have a relationship outside of social media? You want the people there that will fill your heart at the sight of them, people that you know you will be able to reflect back upon your wedding day with in ten years. 

-Plus One’s. Bridal Party members should definitely get a plus one. No you don’t have to put the plus ones at your head table, but that is a topic for a different day. For other plus ones you are welcome to evoke the “no ring, no bring” rule, or just use common courtesy. If you have never met the significant other there is no need for them to be there, if they are a regular attendee at events that you go to then make room for them on your list.

-If you want to send a save the date to this person you MUST send them a wedding invitation.

-Anyone that you plan on inviting to an engagement party, bachelorette party, bridal shower, or rehearsal dinner. The one exception might be if your office throws you a party and people you have very little interaction with attend. But if you have any input on the guest list for the party then make sure that person will be receiving an actual wedding invitation.

-For guests you are the fence about, ask yourself: Will I still be involved in this person’s life in five years? What kind of wedding guest will they be? Will they go overboard at the open bar or perhaps make an embarrassment of themselves sometime throughout the event?